If you have lived, you have made mistakes. It’s OK,we all make mistakes. God actually designed us to be resilient and learn from our mistakes. One characteristics of humans over AI is we are intuitive and amazingly adaptive.
A lot of what we learn in life, we learn through failure or mistakes. Learning from mistakes is what we are attempting to live out. No one is perfect and God didn’t call us to a rigid perfectionism but to such an excellence of spirit in our character that we can remain child-like, always learning,IF we remain humble and flexible.
But when we make mistakes there is also a tendency in all of us to regret the choice or choices we made and even re-litigate the decision over in our minds, even beating ourselves up as we are doing it.
But this is a dead-end street! Regret has a way of keeping us focused on the past when that’s done.Again there is nothing wrong with analysis or correcting our way of thinking .That’s good. When we do it we should repent,we should change our thinking and even sometimes our ways of thinking.
But when we second- guess too much ,it hinders us from moving out of the cul-de-sac and dead-end street of regret. It only leads to death because we beconme sorrowful over unwise choices. And regret is the path to bitterness, to others but ultimately ourselves.
2 Corinthians 7:9-10 “I now rejoice, not that you were made sorrowful, but that you were made sorrowful to the point of repentance; for you were made sorrowful according to the will of God, so that you might not suffer loss in anything through us. For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death.”
Regret is there and happens when we make poor choices. But we need to learn to move forward and not camp in regret. Then after we have learned we should drop regret as a way of responding to failure and as a part of living. Realize regret steals our ability to keep moving and see it as a road to nowhere! Prophet Bob Jones used to regularly say, “The door to the past is the door to death”. Don’t constantly go back. Go forward.
We can’t keep our eyes on the Lord and ourselves at the same time. The reason Judas killed himself is he was trapped in regret,which is a form of self-destruction. Acknowledge the mistake ,the failure and how it occurred then keep moving forward or you will only be looking back.